Having someone destroy your trust is one of the most difficult things that can happen to anyone. The sad truth of life is that this happens every day to so many people, most especially to couples in relationships. Sometimes no matter how much you love a person bouncing back to what you had before can be more than difficult. However, you don't have to let infidelity get in the way of things. If you still want to work things out and are determined, then you will find that recovering from infidelity is not something that is impossible. Given that both you and your partner are willing to get over things that happened in the past, you will be able to make it work once again.
Acceptance is an essential key to being able to recover from infidelity. No matter what you do, the things that have happened and the events which have taken place cannot be undone. Brooding over these things can only make it worse for you. The best thing that you can do is to come to terms with it. Accept that these things have happened, and that they have happened for a reason; this is the first step that you need to take towards recovery.
Forgiveness is another thing that you will need to have when trying to get over infidelity. More often than not this is also the most difficult of all things. What you need to remember is that without forgiveness, you cannot and will not be able to successfully move on with your life together. If you find it hard to forgive your partner then just keep in mind that if you want to be with him or her, you will need to find forgiveness in your heart which is the second step.
Once you have gotten over with the first two steps of recovering from infidelity, which are forgiveness and acceptance the other steps may be easier to do. Something that you will definitely want to do is to find out the cause of the problem. Sit back and think about why your partner was lured into infidelity to begin with. Was it because of differences between the two of you? Lack of time and or attention? A temptation that could not be resisted? Whatever reason it may be, you must both work towards dealing with the root cause. This third step may demand a lot of time and effort from both parties; but this can be very important especially if you want to avoid getting into a vicious cycle.
After you have gotten these things over with then you can get into the fourth step which will surely be more fun- rebuilding your relationship. Both you and your partner should try to re-discover why you fell in love and why you should keep the relationship alive. Do things that both of you enjoy and value.